I’m Engaged…Now What: Yoga Philosophy, Satya
Satya, the second limb of the yamas, means truthfulness. On a grosser level, satya means not telling lies. On a more subtle level, satya means speaking and following one’s truth. This is extremely important when planning your wedding. Friends and family will share unsolicited advice on how to spend this special day, from who to invite on the guest list to what type of cake filling you should have. Just a few of the questions that tend to come up during the planning phase and how to apply satya:
Guest list: Mom or Mother-in-law to be wants to invite 100 of their closest friends. You wanted your total guest list to be no more than 100. Do you?
- Cancel the wedding from the stress
- Elope
- Honor your truth. First and foremost, remember this is a celebration of two people who love each. Explore why you only wanted 100 guests, ie. are you paying for the wedding? Whatever the reason is explain this from your heart.
Sally, who you haven’t seen in ages but bumped into at the bridal show suddenly begins calling you all the time and can’t wait to celebrate your special day with you. Up until the bridal show, you had no intention of inviting her. Do you:
- Cancel the wedding from the stress
- Make her your maid of honor and godmother to your future kids
- Stick to your original intention and honor your truth
Someone else is paying for your wedding. Since they have the checkbook, they are making choices based on what they want, not what you want. Do you:
- Cancel the wedding from the stress
- Go along with their plans, there’s always the 10 or 20 year renewal of vows ceremony you could plan
- Honor your truth. What would it feel like to pay for your own wedding, knowing it is exactly the way you want it?
Truthfulness take courage, integrity, and sincerity. Speaking your truth may cause you to challenge fears, doubts, and uncertainty. At some point, however, doing things for others, in order to “keep peace” or be liked, poses a far greater risk to your health than the initial discomfort of honoring your path, your needs. It is, both, empowering and liberating to embrace your own personal truth.
Love & Light,
Carrie